60 Ways to Keep Your Wife's Love and 60 Ways to Keep Your Husband's Love

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce 
2. Give sincere salaams 
3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel 
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere 
5. Be generous with her 
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart 
7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times 
8. Look good and smell great for your wife 
9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken 
10. Be a good listener 
11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing 
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear 
13. Utilize pleasant surprises 
14. Preserve and guard the tongue 
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings 
16. Give sincere compliments 
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family 
18. Speak about topics that interest her 
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is 
20. Give each other gifts 
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her 
22. Have a good opinion of each other 
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick 
24. Add a drop of patience, increase drops during pregnancy, menses 
25. Expect and respect her jealously 
26. Be humble 
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers 
28. Help at home and with housework 
29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her 
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you 
31. Remember your wife in dua 
32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up. 
33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family 
34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife 
35. Put food in your wife’s mouth 
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect 
37. Show her your smile 
38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big 
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted 
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking 
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills 
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries 
43. Help her take care of the children 
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments 
45. Sit down and eat meals together 
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice 
47. Don’t leave home in anger 
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home 
49. Encourage each other in ibaadat 
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you 
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times 
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull” 
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside 
54. Show care for her health and well-being 
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself 
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her 
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses 
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on 
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal 
60. Have a good intention for her 
60 Ways to Keep Your Husbands Love 

Before you moan and groan that it's another of one those lists, just give it a quick skim. I can almost guarantee you there are things on this list that you know for sure you are not doing, and know that if you did do, it'll create a lot more love and harmony in your marriage. 

Of course, this isn't a list of obligations of the wife by any means, rather reminders and tips to score those 'bonus points'. Trust me, you'll be reaping the rewards as well; 
jazakallah khairan


MJK

Oh ALLAH(swt) Forgive all of us, ammen

After the first prostration, the Prophet ﷺ would raise his head, lay his left foot along the ground and sit on it relaxed (Ahmad).

He ﷺ said “When you prostrate, prostrate firmly, then when you rise, sit on your left thigh” (Bukhari)

The Prophet ﷺ would lengthen his sitting until it was about almost as long as his sajdah (Bukhari and Muslim). He would say:
رب اغفر لي اغفر لي

“O my Lord! Forgive me, forgive me.” (Ibn Majah)

Forgiveness

When we say the above, most of us know the general meaning of ‘maghfira’ or forgiveness. But since we are learning the intricate meanings of our words and actions during the prayer, we also need to know what the deeper significance of these words is. Ibn Al-Qayyim said that maghfira is erasing the sin, removal of its traces and prevention of its evil. It is taken from the word mighfar, which means the metal helmet that a warrior wears to protect himself. And just as a mighfar protects the one wearing it from the consequences of the attacks, maghfira (forgiveness) protects a person from the consequences of the sin. And just as the mighfar covers the warrior’s head, maghfira veils the person’s faults. Thus when Allah bestows upon you maghfira, He protects you from the consequences of your sin and veils that sin from others. That is what we seek when we say “Rabbi ighfir-ly.”

Two Prostrations

In each cycle of prayer, we go into rukoo’ (bowing) once, and into sujood (prostration) twice. Have we ever wondered why? Ibn Al-Qayyim has stated that because the sujood is the most important pillar in the prayer, its significance is shown in its repetition. We desire to taste that sweetness of being the closest we can be to Allah, and thus fall into prostration again.

We begin the prayer with reciting, and we end with prostrating, just like the first surah to be revealed to the Prophet ﷺ. It begins with:

“Recite in the name of your Lord who created.” (Qur’an, 96:1)

and ends with:

“No! Do not obey him [the disbeliever]. But prostrate and draw near [to Allah].” (Qur’an, 96:19)

Another Du`a’

While the most common du`a’ when we are sitting is the one mentioned above, there is another one that we can say which is more comprehensive:
رب اغفر لي وارحمني {واجبرني} {وارفعني} واهدني {وعافني} وارزقني

“O my Lord! Forgive me; have mercy on me; strengthen me; raise my rank; guide me; pardon me; sustain me.” (Tirmidhi)

May Allah enable us to taste the significance of every single action of prayer. Ameen.

ahmad usman

THE COCCYX

The Coccyx is the last bone in the vertebral column. It was mentioned in many Hadiths that this bone is the origin of humans and the seed from which they will be resurrected on the Day of Judgment and that this part doesn’t decay in the earth.

The honoured Hadiths:

1. Abu Huraira reported that The Prophet (PBUH) said: “All what of son of Adam will (be eaten???) by the earthexcept the coccyx from which he was created and from which he will be resurrected ” Reported by Albukhari, Al Nassaii, Abu Daoud, Ibn Majah and Ahmad in his Mousnad and Malek in his Mouattaa.

2. As was reported by Abu Huraira the prophet (PBUH) said: “There is a bone in the Son Of Adam that the earth will never eat. They said what is it Oh Prophet of Allah? He said: It is the coccyx” Reported by Albukhari, Al Nassaii, Abu Daoud, Ibn Majah, Ahmad in his book “al Mousnad” and Malek in his book “Al Mouattaa”.

So the previous Hadiths are clear and contain the following facts:

1. Human are created from the coccyx.

2. The coccyx does not get decayed.

3. On the Day of Judgment, the Resurrection will be from the coccyx.


The Coccyx is the last bone in the vertebral column


Stages of foetus formation:

When the sperm fecundate the ovule, foetus formation starts. The fecundated ovule or the zygote divides into 2 cells, and each cell divides into another 2 cells. Cells division and growth continue until the formation of the embryonic disk that contains 2 layers:

External “Epiblast”: contains the cytotrophoblasts that fix the embryo in the uterus wall and enable its nutrition from the blood and the secretions of the glands of the uterus wall.
Internal “Hypoblast”: From which the foetus is formed with the Will of Allah The Almighty. On the day15 the primitive streakappears in the dorsal aspect of the embryo with a pointed end called the primitive node.
The side on which the primitive streak appears is known as the back of the embryonic disc. From the primitive streak and node all the foetus tissues and organs are formed as follows:

The Ectoderm: gives the skin and the central nervous system
The Mesoderm: gives the digestive tract smooth muscles, the skeletal muscles, the circulation system, the heart, the bones the sexual and urinary systems (except the bladder), the subcutaneous tissues, the lymphatic system, the spleen and the cortex.
The Endoderm: the linings of the digestive tract and the respiratory system, the organs related to the digestive tract (ex: liver and pancreas), the bladder, the thyroid gland, the hearing canal.
After that, the primitive streak and node become emaciated and reside in the sacral zone, in the last vertebrae, so that the coccyx is formed.

Therefore, the primitive streak and the primitive node represent the coccyx that the prophet (PBUH) told us about.(1)


the primitive streak and node become emaciated and reside in the sacral zone, in the last vertebrae, so that the coccyx is formed


Foetus malformation is a proof that the coccyx contains the mother cells for all the human tissues:

After the creation and formation of the foetus from the primitive streak and the primitive node, those reside in the last vertebrae of the sacrum (the coccyx) and retain their characteristics. If those are motivated somehow, they start to grow similarly to the foetus growth and so give a tumour (Teratoma) that resembles a defective foetus with some organs fully formed (hands or feet with nails) (see the picture). Therefore the sacrum indeed contains the mother cells and what the prophet (PBUH) said about the Resurrection of humans from their coccyx on the Day of Judgment has been proved.

The conclusion: the coccyx contains the primitive streak and primitive node and those are able to grow giving the three layers that form the foetus: ectoderm, mesoderm and endoderm and so can give all the organs as the surgeon when opening the tumour previously mentioned found fully formed organs inside it like teeth, hair…

Humans can be then recreated from their coccyx that contains the primitive streak and node of the overall potential. (2)

And so the coccyx can not get decayed:

Researchers found that foetus cells’ formation and organisation are exerted by the primitive streak and node and before their formation no cells’ differentiation could have taken place. One of the most famous researchers who proved this was the German scientist Hans Spemann.

After his experiments on the primitive streak and node he found that those organise the creation of the foetus and so he called them “The primary organiser”. He cut this part from one foetus and implanted it in another one in the primary embryonic stage (third and fourth week). This lead to the formation of a secondary foetus in the guest body due to the influence and organisation exerted by the surrounding guest’s cells on the implant.

The German scientist started his experiments on the amphibians by implanting the primary organiser in a second foetus, which led to the growth of a secondary embryo. The implantation of the cut primary organiser was in another foetus of the same age under the Epiblast layer and lead to the apparition of a secondary embryonic anlage.

In 1931, when Spemann crushed the primary organiser and implanted it again, the crushing did not affect the experiment as again, a secondary embryonic anlage grew.

In 1933, Spemann and other scientists conducted the same experiment but the primary organiser was boiled this time. A secondary embryonic anlage grew in spite of the boiling showing that the cells were not affected. In 1935, Spemann was awarded the Nobel Prize for his discovery of the Primary Organiser. (3)

Dr Othman Al Djilani and Sheikh Abd Al Majid Azzandani did some experiments on the coccyx in Ramadan 1423 in Sheikh Abd Al Majid Azzandani’s house in Sanaa.

One of the two vertebras of 5 coccyx bones were burnt on stones using a gas gun for 10 minutes until their total combustion (the bones became red then black). They put the carbonised pieces in sterilised boxes and took them to the most famous analysis laboratory in Sanaa (Al Olaki laboratory). Dr al Olaki, the professor in histology and pathology in Sanaa University, analysed the pieces and found that the cells of the bone tissues of the coccyx were not affected and they survived the burning (only the muscles the fatty tissues and the bone marrow cells were burnt while the coccyx bone cells were not affected). (4)

Imaan